I know it’s been a few weeks since my last post, but life has been super busy in the #laniersresidence lately. With all the hustle-and-bustle of my daily life, I have not only taken a backseat on L3, but also on being a kind wife, daughter, co-worker, etc.
One thing I’ve always been good at is keeping in touch with my girlfriends-and I have recently cheated on that too. I’ve noticed that even when I’m calling to catch up with my friends, I’m focusing the conversation on myself-my stories, my exciting news, my problems. Sure, I might throw in a few ‘So what’s new with you?’ lines in there, but I’m never giving them my devoted attention.
As I was falling asleep the other night, I began to think about how much my girlfriends mean to me. It then dawned on me, that the question posed was slightly inappropriate. The proper question I should be asking is ‘How much do we mean to one another?’ Furthermore-if every girl in every group of friends posed this question, considering not only themselves, I strongly believe the lifespan of female-friendships would increase significantly.
Two facts: females are more emotionally-involved and humans are instinctively self-absorbed. Combine those and you get the infamous ‘girl drama’. Isn’t it sad that quotation marks were necessary for that last line? The fact that we have made such a stigma for ourselves ladies, does not help us in these times of the fight for gender equality. We need to build each other up by supporting each others’ success and comforting each others’ problems.
Fortunately, some social circles surpass the statistic of ‘old friends’ and move into ‘lifelong friends’. I can happily say I have found mine. The neat part about having ‘lifelong friends’ is you can be slightly separated from each other’s lives, but still hold value. This shouldn’t mean that you don’t need to work toward maintaining and bettering the friendship though. Life is ever-changing and we need to change with it. There will be times when you’re the one needing to vent, but there will also be times when your friends need to also. Let them. Be as much a part of their lives as you are to theirs. Be there for each other, support each other’s successes, comfort each other’s problems. Rid the world of our unkindly stigma. Make a name for yourselves.
I posted this lovely quote on Instagram yesterday recognizing my best friends and nearly all of them reached back out to me in some way. Not only did the simple use of social media allow me to support my friendships, but it also allowed me to increase awareness among other females. So here’s my challenge to you. If you read this post and agree, repost and tag me at sk_lanier with the hashtag #livelaughlanier. I’d love to see your girl tribe!